You don’t notice but
trees are watching us sadly,
as we destroy earth.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I wanted to talk about getting the girl the right way. Again, I am not an expert on this but I am a woman so please take all of this with a grain of salt.
One of the things that guys really hate is being sent to the friend zone. What exactly does a girl think of the friendzone? In my case, this zone is only there because women are afraid to flat out reject a guy. So instead of saying no, she says maybe.
What do I mean?
When a guy is interested with a girl, he befriends her. He doesn’t consider if the girl likes him back. He immediately thinks that if he shows her good things, treat her well, and buys her stuff, she’ll see that he’s the man for her. However, girls don’t like to assume. So what happens is, the woman thinks that this is just how the guy normally treat women. That he is just a really great friend. So in this case, the best way to deal is to lay your intentions. Tell her that you like her and you’re doing this because you are hoping she’ll see you as more than a friend.
I know that “some” girls actually take advantage of men who treat them well, but this only happens when the guy doesn’t try to check first if the girl is into them. If a girl is busy dating more than one man, and you’re not okay with that, let go. You deserve someone who will only want to be with you. Someone who will be content with you. And women also deserve this, so unless you are sure that you want to date ONLY HER, don’t “court” her. I think it’s time people stop playing mind games and just dive into being in a relationship.
The only reason men have a hard time understanding women’s motive, is because they don’t take the time to observe. [Okay. Observe, not stalk. No creepiness please.] And guys, please don’t be afraid of rejection. If she says no, just know that you’ve dodged a bullet. You don’t want to be with a girl who doesn’t want you. And to lower the damage of being rejected, I think you must make it clear to a woman that you like her before doing all the nice things I mentioned above.
Have you heard of “courtship”? This is when you lay your intentions, and tell a woman that you want to be in a relationship with her. IMO, the only way not to be on the friendzone is to ask her first for permission if she’s down to date you. At least, if she rejects you, and calls you a “friend”, you haven’t invested much.
Dating and relationships are complicated, so everything might be different for you. But don’t lose hope. If you’re a good person, I’m sure you’ll find the perfect person for you, who will make you feel loved, the way you deserve to be loved.
If you have questions, feel free to ask me at the comments below or by sending me a message thru this contact form.
Cherry blossoms fall
the wind carries them along
with my memories.
So I just came across a book about successfully getting the girl, and it was sexist and I can honestly say that it might have been written by a douche bag. Reading it made my blood boil. So I thought, if guys really need help, I’m willing to shed some light.
Of course, I’m not an expert. I don’t have a degree on women nor have I done research on it. But I am a woman and I have friends and family who are women. So I’m guessing I know at least something about how to pursue them. 😉
I’ll probably make it a series so I will prepare an outline later tonight before I publish said topics. Just so I don’t have a messy discussion of articles.
I also encourage you to publish one or maybe comment on what you think. Girls are different and your opinion may help them guys get the girls properly. ☺
Til my next post,
It’s always fun to experiment with new spreads, titles and dividers, so I’ve created a comprehensive collection of practical (they don’t take long!) yet classy (they look sweet!) fonts and lines that you can use for your collections and dailies! Check them out!
First up: larger fonts that work well as collection titles.
And some smaller ones plus dividers you can use for dates.
Hope you enjoyed, and let me know if you tried any of these yourself!
It’s been a while since I last read a physical book. It was nice to do it again. 😊 The smell of old books is really relaxing. I bought this book on a sale, but it looks nice.
The book is titled Dragon Slippers, written by Jessica Day George. I think there is a second book titled “Dragon Flight”. I would probably have to scour book sales and secondhand bookstores just to find it. 😄
The story started slow but I was hooked by the unexpected twists and turns. This is basically just me listing down my reactions to the story.
Spoilers ahead! ⚠⚠⚠
As I approach my 25th year (turned 24 last June but you know “technically” I’m getting there), I feel like I have hit a point in my life where everything just stops. And there’s a crossroad.
Two years ago, I was repeatedly asking life to just pause. And in a way, it did. However, I realized that pausing my life didn’t do me good. I still didn’t get the rest I need. I didn’t really pause. I was still working. I was still feeling guilty every time I try to do something recreational. I still feel like I should be doing something to earn or to improve my skills.
While my friends are out partying or just going with their friends, I was at home. Either doing chores, browsing social media, reading a book or streaming a TV show. I mean, I kind of enjoyed doing those, but whenever “people” tell me I should go out, I begin to doubt myself. I start to think that maybe I’m wasting my life.
But the thing is, I actually don’t like going out. It’s starting to irritate me as I feel like I HAVE TO go out. When in actuality, I really didn’t want to. They make me doubt the things I do. Am I wasting my life if I don’t go out with friends? Is it wrong to just stay home where there’s a soft bed, cuddly pillows and a fuzzy blanket?
I recently started following a page about being unbusy. It promotes unplugging and taking time to just be. However, I’m still uncertain if I agree with everything, especially the part where they say I must go experience nature. I mean I like nature — the stars, the smell of fresh air, those kinda things — but I don’t exactly love camping in the woods. I have lived almost my whole life with trees and plants and mosquitos. No, thank you.
Then comes the part where I realize I don’t need to listen to anyone. I don’t have to follow anyone’s advice. That I can just be myself and do what I enjoy. But what if the things I enjoy doesn’t make me “improve” myself? Should I continue being myself or should I follow others’ advice?
Dammit. Life is so complicated.