How to Quit Your Job

I have been wanting to quit my job since last year, and I can’t seem to be able to do so. Not until I read, a post about “just quitting”. After reading that article, I did a little thinking. I prayed and I meditated on it.

And I finally made up my mind and just quit. After I did, there was a sense of relief as if a dagger sticking out my throat had been removed. The depression and anxiety didn’t go entirely but I can feel it lessened.

Today is my last day and I feel so good. I feel free. So how did I find the courage to quit?

1. Meditate on why you want to quit.

Know your reasons. Is quitting the only way to solve your problems? In my case, it’s like God had given me a way out as my partner decided to work and I’ll be the one to stay at home.

I was being bullied at work. Plus,  I am not a very social person. Quitting my job gave me the chance to do online jobs where I do not need to socialize a lot. Plus, I get the freedom to continue running our bakery business.

Whatever your reasons are, make sure you are headed to a better direction. You do not want to be impulsive. Plan it out.

2. Discuss your options with someone you trust.

I am so blessed to have my partner support me in this.

I was so afraid of quitting because I know I needed to eat. I needed to work so I can provide for myself. However, every time I think about quitting, I panic as I know I don’t have any savings as my safety net if I did. He helped me be kinder to myself as he knows I’m on the edge of burnout.

My point is, talk to someone you trust (better if it’s your parents or your partner) and discuss your feelings. Tell them why you want to quit and what you plan to do. What is stopping you from doing so. I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to help you figure things out.

3. Decide when you want to do it.

Once you decide when to quit, trust me, you’ll feel the difference. After handing in my letter, some of the anxiety I have been feeling faded. Hope was bursting from me. I finally had a goal instead of endless days of going to the same old routine of a job.

Even though you aren’t going to quit soon, if you want to, set a date when you’ll finally do it. Set a date when your savings should be enough. Set a goal and make sure it’s achievable.

4. Just quit.

When your set time has come, print the letter, sign it and hand it over. Free yourself from your boring routine and start chasing your dream.

If you want to be a writer, everything you do must be leaning towards being a writer. Showcase your writing skills even if you are just sending an email to your client. If you want to be a chef, everything you do must be helping you become one. When you cook, practice doing what chefs do. Wear a toque if you like. Just make it happen.


I hope I was able to help you with my story. Feel free to share as well as like and follow! ♥

How to Vote Wisely

Election is around the corner but I still don’t know who to vote for. It has come to a point where every candidate feels like the wrong person to vote for.

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AND I find it hard to find the lesser evil. (Yet, I just told my mom to choose the lesser evil, I’m such a hypocrite! 😄 )

How did we get into this deep sh*t? Why did we let ourselves go this far? Not that I am pointing fingers (coz I don’t really have an inkling on what really transpired behind the written history 😉 ) but the older generation really had something to do with this, and their parents, and their parents’ parents.

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So, the only way to stop this nonsense is through us: The New Generation. We have the power to change lives and to write history.

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What do I mean?

Remember JFK’s famous quote?
my-fellow-americans-ask-not-what-your-country-can-do-for-you-doctors-quoteWe should start caring for our country and not just ourselves. Yes, your town will be abundant if this guy wins, but what about the next town? Will your guy also take care of the next town even if it’s the town of his rival?

Will your guy consider implementing some of the great platforms of his rivals or will he stick to his own?

Will he still take care of the previous administration’s projects to help the country or will he abolish it just so the masses can forget the previous official?

Is your candidate thinking of the country’s future or is he thinking of keeping a clean name and reputation?

Is he thinking of what he can do for the country or what the country can do for him?

I think we should stop our bad habits now, so we don’t need to vote for an iron fist leader. We should start obeying the law so we don’t need to vote for people who’ll force us to obey the law.

We should stop voting for candidates who buy votes and distributes money in envelopes so that they won’t have a chance to rob the masses. Corrupt officials are in the government because we voted for them. We voted for them because they promised to give us something cool, like a meet-and-greet of our favorite celebrities. We know it’s wrong yet we do it still. Or do we? Moreover, we have the guts to call out corrupt candidates when we, ourselves, are corrupt and cheaters.

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We should start taking responsibility of our country and our future. It’s our turn to take charge.

How to vote wisely? Think of your country. Vote with your country and its future in mind. 

Keeping you in mind,
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Love is… (Part 2)

After reading a blog post by Chevy, I remembered everything. I had known that love was a choice and not just a feeling. I had known it since long ago. It was the same reason that I am still in this relationship despite getting really annoyed and irritated by the same guy I know I love. However, after reading her post, I remembered my promise — my decision.

Before I said accepted my boyfriend’s love on that August afternoon, I had done everything I can to make sure I am doing the right thing — that he is the right man.

Let me tell you our story.

I met him April 10, 2013 during our New Hire Orientation. I wasn’t looking for a relationship so I didn’t really pay him much attention. For me, he was just a future colleague. (However, he said it was love at first sight for him.) smiling-face-with-heart-shaped-eyes

After a few months, I was getting hints that he likes me. At some point, he wanted to stay with me even when he’s got a fever. He always eats his lunch with me instead of with the other crowd. You get the point. smiling-face-with-smiling-eyes I didn’t want to be with him at that time as I didn’t think he was the one God wanted for me. I “friend-zoned” him. Yet, he wanted to be able to love me still. I was amazed by the guy’s determination. I began to see the little things he does for me. Then, before I knew it, I fell for him.

Come my birthday, he officially asked to court me. I didn’t actually say yes. I’d just let him do his thing. I just said, “Do whatever.” He bought me Krispy Kreme truffled donuts that day.

I still wasn’t sure of him so I asked my mom if she approves. She just told me to do what would make me happy. I contemplated for weeks. I knew this guy loves me as he shows me that he does. he was different from all the guys I dated as he actually wanted to show how much he loves me. He tolerates my drama. He accepts me for who I am but also scolds me when I am wrong. He’s interested in me.

What kept me from saying yes is the fact that I know one day, the love, the feeling of love would somehow disappear, just like it did with my past relationships. I knew he’ll eventually get tired of me, my drama and my BS. I knew.

However, when my mom told me to do what makes me happy, I knew that being in a relationship with him would make me so happy. To be able to make him feel ‘how much love I feel for him‘ would make me feel happy. That was when I decided to love him. I decided to love him even though I know he wouldn’t always be lovable.

I remember all of those now. I remember why I decided to love him in the first place — not because I wanted to feel loved but because I wanted to love him. 

So when I said yes that afternoon, I had decided that I am going to love this person, no matter what. ♥

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Today starts our 32nd month together. It had been a bumpy ride but since I decided to get on this train, I will enjoy the ride until we reach our destination. #Forever grinning-face-with-smiling-eyes

I know we will always have petty fights and even relationship-threatening fights. I know he will continue to annoy me. But I know he’ll continue to choose loving me and so will I because love is a choice and WE CHOOSE OUR LOVE. ♥

xoxo,
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5 Tips on How to Take Smartphone Selfies with Your Dog

If you are tired of forcing your dog to take selfies with you, this guide might help you get a perfect shot even with just a smartphone.

1. Plan the photo shoot and create a shot list.

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Dogs, along with other pet animals, are hard to photograph. So what you need to do is prepare and plan the event. Decide on what your concept would be and what time of the day you’ll be doing the shoot.

If you plan to recreate a character and need costumes, have the costumes handy and make sure your pet is comfortable wearing the said costumes. If the costumes itches, he won’t be as cooperative.

If you have a routine of walking your dog in the afternoon, it will only get him too energetic if you do the photo shoot then. Unless that’s the kind of situation you are looking for, be sure to prepare the dog. Walk him first and let him release energy. Wait until he relaxes and tries to calm himself. Once a dog is tired, you can get a selfie with him smiling and probably with his tongue out.

2. Consider the background and go for natural lighting.

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Dark backgrounds will tend to drown out black-furred dogs. Taking pictures of him in a dark lit room may not be a good idea. This also goes for taking pictures of a white-furred dog in the snow. Unless your smartphone has great focus, avoid that same shade combination.

Dogs have different shades of fur. Fluorescent lights don’t go well with taking selfies. If you take a picture of a black furred dog under a fluorescent light, his fur will look bluish. You won’t be able to capture the tiny details. He’ll just look like a black dog silhouette. The most perfect and most recommended weather to take pictures in is during a nice overcast. Having a bright sunny only changes the look of national event.

Also, when taking pictures, especially selfies, take note of your background. Always double check your background as a dirty laundry pile can ruin your perfect picture.

3. Be patient and cuddle with your dog.

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Some owners think that shouting, “Stay, boy! Stay! Stay! Stay, boy!” again and again will make their pet more obedient but they’re wrong. Bombarding them with commands will only distract them more. Instead, be patient and wait for your dog to respond. You can use treats to get his attention or have a friend help take your photo while you fix your dog’s pose.

Another option is to cuddle your dog so he would be relaxed for the photo shoot. You can even wear matching costumes to fit the theme. Once your dog calms down, close-up selfie and focus on his eyes. Since eyes are the windows of the soul, the picture will have personality.

Speaking of personality, let your dog’s personality come through the photos. Let him be himself and the perfect moments will come. Candid moments are better anyways. A dog wearing a suit acting like a dog is cuter than a forced behaved dog wearing a suit. Just have your camera ready to capture the moment.

4. Fix the settings of your smartphone and edit your final photos.

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Most phones have a camera app setting for taking moving subjects. Using that particular setup, you’ll be able to get good shots even though you have an energetic dog. Say goodbye to blurred photos. Also, when taking a selfie with your dog and he suddenly moves or leaves, the phone will be able to catch him inside the frame.

Nonetheless, you don’t have to stress out over bad quality photos because there is always Photoshop. You can always edit and enhance the quality of your pictures. Feel free to use filters and play with the adjustment buttons of saturation, brightness and contrast. You can even use apps to edit or even when taking the pictures.

5. Shoot lots of pictures.

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Much like taking your own selfie, you must take many shots so that you have a ton of pictures to choose from. Even models take a huge number of pictures from different angles.

In addition, get flexible to get great angles. Even if it takes bending your waist for quite a long amount of time, try to see things in your dog’s perspective. Pictures are better when taken at an eye level, which in this case is your dog’s eye level.

You don’t need a great camera to capture beautiful photographs. Photography is a skill and not a setting. It takes patience, passion, and probably a phone.

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What’s your love language?

Okay. I know I said I wouldn’t be posting about Valentine’s day. But I just can’t help it. And NO, I’m not gonna post and display what my boyfriend gave me. (Spoiler: He did not give me anything.) Also, NO, I am not mad at him. You see, this day is not just about the gifts. Although girls would LOVE LOVE LOVE to receive them gifts, what we really want is the attention and affection of the person we love. Amirite ladies? So some guys think that they’ll be able to show their love better with gifts, that’s fine. But if your guy didn’t, maybe he feels that doesn’t really translate his love.

Have you heard about “love language”?

According to Gary Chapman, a relationship counselor and author of The 5 Love Languages series, love languages are ways to express and experience love.

There are five:

  1. gifts
  2. quality time
  3. words of affirmation
  4. acts of service/devotion
  5. physical touch/intimacy

Gift love.

Mind you, this is different from materialism. This kind of love language seeks love, thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift given. People with this language thinks that the perfect gift or gesture should show that their partner knows them, cares for them and values them. For them, gifts are a visual representation  of love and they treasure even the smallest gifts.

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The Perfect Gift: anything that is thought through. Preferably something that would mean a lot to your partner, i.e. a book from the author your partner loves, jewelry with your initials on it, a card with a heart felt poem, a song you wrote.

Quantity vs. Quality

This is one of the things my partner and I always fight about. He thinks that “spending time with me” means being beside me while he plays on his phone/PC/game device. What I really want is at least an hour of undivided attention. Spending time with me without hurrying to sleep or hurrying so he could play. You know what I mean?

When I try to tell him about this, he just interrupts me and announces his love for me. Ain’t he cute? That’s what he do when he knows he’s wrong.

Anyway, so about quality time. When spending time with your partner, quality is better than quantity. People who speak this language loves the undivided attention, the feeling that their loved one is interested in them.

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The Perfect Gift: Your UNDIVIDED attention. Don’t interrupt when they talk. Give valid responses to show interest. Eye contact. Make sure your eyes don’t glaze over.

Let’s get Physical!

This language doesn’t just revolve around the bedroom. A person with this language is very touchy. They prefer hugs, pats on the back, massages, holding hands etc.

Physical presence is very crucial for them to feel loved. They get a sense of security and belonging in the relationship when communicated with the said language.

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The Perfect Gift: A massage or maybe more?

Action speak louder than words.

People with “Acts of Service” as their love language believes in the saying above. Most wives and mothers have  kind of language. They feel that serving their loved ones will show just how much love they feel.

When you try to lessen the burden of these people by helping out, they’ll see how much you love them. Hearing the words “let me do that for you” would probably have them swooning.

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The Perfect Gift: Do their chores and errands for a period of time or at least offer to. They’ll really appreciate the thought. (Of course, you’d have to be really willing to do it in case they say yes.)

Kiss and Tell!

“Words of Affirmation” as a love language seeks unsolicited compliments and positive words. People with this language get hyped whenever they hear supportive, kind and encouraging words. Just hearing “I love you” can make their day.

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The Perfect Gift: Recite a poem. Pick up a guitar and serenade them. Just tell them how much you love them.

A person can have more than one love language. 

Try to learn what your partner’s love language is and learn yours too. Knowing that, it could make a big impact on how your partner can perceive your love and vice versa. Knowing what my partner’s love language made me understand him. It made me accept that he might not shower me with gifts, I should be assured that he really loves me and he’s actually trying to show it in his own special way – in his own special love language. ♥

If you want to understand and learn more about the love languages, I found a website called 5lovelanguages.com and they have a test where you can find out your love language or your child’s.

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4 Reasons Why You Need To Invest on Experience

When you invest, you expect a return. If you invest on experience, you get a return in terms of memories. Happiness cannot be bought, only experienced. So unless you stop investing in goods and start experiencing life, you will never find true happiness.

Reasons Why You Should Invest on Experience

First of all, investing in yourself is a crucial part of self-love. You have to understand that you are more important than the amount of money you have in the bank.

You are what you experience. It was not what food you ate that defines you but what you felt when you ate it. The moments in your life only mean what they mean because of the emotions it made you feel and the people you were with at that moment.

Going to Paris is exciting, not because of the place itself but because you are excited to feel what tourists feel when you get there. You are excited to experience traveling to another country. Experience lets you know what makes you happy and that is what’s important.

You are what you remember. The experience, the moments – they all are important not because of the amount of money spent. They are only important to you because of the moments you remember. When you reminisce, you don’t giggle because you remember how much that party cost you. You giggle because you remember all the silliness and fun that took place in that party.

Do you know why some people don’t throw old pictures? or why some collect candid shots? It is because those photos hold a lot of memories they want to remember and to revisit.

You are not the things you own. Not everyone who has a lot of money is happy. Why? Because even if you have all the money in the world, if you don’t have someone –anyone– to share it with, there is no happiness.

People are social creatures. They thrive attention and affection, things you can’t get from material things. Even if you own a luxury car, if no one is there to go on a joy ride with you, it isn’t the same. When your morning mug breaks, or any material thing for that matter, you may feel upset and regret the amount of money you spent on it. However, the deepest impact would be from the fact that you are losing that object that “someone” gave you or that object that reminds you of all the good mornings you spent with “someone”.

Those experiences are more important than the material things themselves. Accept that no matter how cheap or expensive a thing is, the experience you got from that certain mug is what will stay with you.

You are not your bank account balance. Another reason why you should invest on experience is for you to realize that you can still enjoy life even if you don’t have a ton of money. Sometimes, the people with that least amount of money are the happiest. Why? It is because they have shifted their focus from thinking of the next sale or from that new set of shoes that was released last week. They have focused on being content with what they have and on spending their time on people instead.

So what do you need to do to invest on experience? Start asking yourself when you die, what will be your answers to this questions:

 

  • Can I really say that I have lived?
  • Have I done everything I want to?
  • Do I have any regrets?

 

Reflect on the said questions and live life according to your responses.

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How To: Pay Off ALL Your Debts

One of the ways to improve your attitude towards money is to pay all of your debts. This may not be possible to do in one go. However, making it your priority helps finish the payments faster.

Here are some approaches to paying off all of your debts.

Approach 1: ONE STEP AT A TIME

Pay one debt after another. Find the card that charges the highest interest rate and start with that card. Then, go to the next card with the lower amount until you finish all of them.

You can also go the other way around and pay the card with the smallest balance first. When paid off, use the money allotted to pay the card with next smallest balance until you finish them all.

Approach 2: PAY MORE

When paying your monthly dues, pay more than the minimum balance. The smaller your balance is, the smaller the interest will be. It will speed up the payments too.

Approach 3: CONSOLIDATE

Combine your debt so you’ll only pay only one creditor. However, you have to check on what your behavior is regarding debt accumulation.  Even if you’ll be able to pay your debt off, if you won’t cut off the credit cards, you’ll most likely drown yourself in debt again. Unless you plan to stop accumulating debt, consolidation is only a good idea, not the best.

There may be easy access to banks that offer consolidation loans with lower interest rates but remember that in the long run, you’ll be paying more. You can’t keep on using debt to pay debt.

Approach 4: CUT BACK ON EXPENSES

Check your budget and your expenses. See where you can cutback and what expenses you can avoid. All the money you save from doing this should be put into paying your debts.

Also, stop accumulating debt. Stop using the cards and if possible, cut them off.

Decide on what approach best suits you. Choose one that will be easier for you to follow through. Just focus on the goal: financial freedom.

 

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CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS MONEY

A lot of people struggle with their finances. Dealing with money causes them stress. The thought of wasting money or not being able to afford things hinders them from doing things they really want to do.

Change can only happen if you allow it to happen. You have to improve your attitude towards money to be successful.

STOP WORRYING ABOUT MONEY

You must stop staying up all night thinking about your finances. Worrying won’t do much, but stress you out and waste your time. It won’t solve the problem, it can only keep you from enjoying your life. Worrying about money would only make your life miserable and would only hurt your body because of all the stress.

Here are ways to keep the anxiety at bay.

  • Have a mantra that you can repeat to yourself when feeling down or when the anxiety starts to creep in. You can also have motivational quotes or bible verses about money management.
  • Depending on your religious preferences, you can either pray or meditate. Let God or the universe calm your soul and find peace. Let them do their work and just try to clear your mind.
  • Count your blessings. Literally count them. Whenever you feel unstable about your financial status, just count the blessings you had that day. This practice will teach you how to be positive at all times.
  • Be in the moment. Stop worrying about tomorrow. Even the bible mentions that people should let tomorrow worry about itself. Rather than thinking, “what if I lose my job?” or “what if my savings run out?”, focus your thoughts to things happening in the “now”. Whenever you buy something, weigh the factors on why you need to purchase the item at the exact moment.
  • Make the “unknown” known. Have a plan. Create a budget. Although living at the moment lets you enjoy life and appreciate the little things, you must still have a plan or a rough idea on how you want to manage your money. When you have a plan, you will feel like you have your life figured out. Others will also perceive that too, resulting to better relationships. When you have a budget, you are basically reminding yourself that your money is accounted for.
  • Make peace with fate. Let go and let God. Just let go of the worry and admit that you cannot predict what the future brings. Know that the worst case scenario, playing on loop in your mind, is really least likely to happen.
  • Limit the time allotted to managing and thinking about your finances. When you give yourself a time limit, you won’t let yourself get stuck on a thought or even let your mind drift off. You know you’ll have to figure something out by a certain point in time.
  • Know the difference between wants and needs. Start mapping out the luxuries you don’t really utilize. Simplify your finances and cut down unnecessary expenses.
  • Stop accumulating debts. Stop buying things you can’t afford. This is basic finance. Using credit cards means using money you don’t have. Only buy items with credit cards when you have the cash to pay it. Be aware that you only want to get the rewards for using the card.

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18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF (Grabbed from www.marcandangel.com)

“This morning I was reading a book at my favorite beach-side coffee shop when an 18-year-old kid sat down next to me and said, “That’s a great read, ain’t it?”  So we started chatting.

He told me he was getting ready to graduate from high school in a couple of weeks and then immediately starting his college career in the fall.  “But I have no clue what I want to do with my life,” he said.  “Right now I’m just going with the flow.”

And then, with eager, honest eyes, he began asking me one question after the next:

  • “What do you do for a living?”
  • “When and how did you decide what you wanted to do?”
  • “Why did you do this?  Why didn’t you do that?”
  • “Is there anything you wish you had done differently?”
  • Etc, etc, etc…

I answered his questions as best as I could, and tried to give decent advice with the time I had.  And after a half-hour conversation, he thanked me and we parted ways.

But on the walk home I realized the conversation I had with him was actually quite nostalgic for me.  He reminded me of me ten years ago.  So I started thinking about his questions again, and I began imagining all of the things I wish someone had told me when I was 18.

Then I took it a step further and thought about all the things I would love to tell myself if I could travel back in time to give my 18-year-old self some advice about life.

So after a few cups of coffee and a couple hours of deliberation, here are 18 things I wish someone told me when I was 18:

  1. Commit yourself to making lots of mistakes. – Mistakes teach youimportant lessons.  The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake.  So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself.  In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance.  You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.  Most of the time you just have to go for it!  And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  Win-Win.  Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever.
  2. Find hard work you love doing. – If I could offer my 18-year-old self some real career advice, I’d tell myself not to base my career choice on other people’s ideas, goals and recommendations.  I’d tell myself not to pick a major because it’s popular, or statistically creates graduates who make the most money.  I’d tell myself that the right career choice is based on one key point: Finding hard work you love doing.  As long as you remain true to yourself, and follow your own interests and values, you can find success through passion.  Perhaps more importantly, you won’t wake up several years later working in a career field you despise, wondering “How the heck am I going to do this for the next 30 years?”  So if you catch yourself working hard and loving every minute of it, don’t stop.  You’re on to something big.  Because hard work ain’t hard when you concentrate on your passions.
  3. Invest time, energy and money in yourself every day. – When you invest in yourself, you can never lose, and over time you will change the trajectory of your life.  You are simply the product of what you know.  The more time, energy and money you spend acquiring pertinent knowledge, the more control you have over your life.
  4. Explore new ideas and opportunities often. – Your natural human fears of failure and embarrassment will sometimes stop you from trying new things.  But you must rise above these fears, for your life’s story is simply the culmination many small, unique experiences.  And the more unique experiences you have, the more interesting your story gets.  So seek as many new life experiences as possible and be sure to share them with the people you care about.  Not doing so is not living.
  5. When sharpening your career skills, focus more on less. – Think in terms of Karate: A black belt seems far more impressive than a brown belt.  But does a brown belt really seem any more impressive than a red belt?  Probably not to most people.  Remember that society elevates experts high onto a pedestal.  Hard work matters, but not if it’s scattered in diverse directions.  So narrow your focus on learning fewer career related skills and master them all.
  6. People are not mind readers.  Tell them what you’re thinking. – People will never know how you feel unless you tell them.  Your boss?  Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet.  That cute girl you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy?  Yeah, you guessed it; she hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given her the time of day either.   In life, you have to communicate with others.  And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words.  You have to tell people what you’re thinking.  It’s as simple as that.
  7. Make swift decisions and take immediate action. – Either you’re going to take action and seize new opportunities, or someone else will first.  You can’t change anything or make any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it.  Remember, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it.  Knowledge is basically useless without action.
  8. Accept and embrace change. – However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace change, and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
  9. Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you. – For the most part, what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter.  When I was 18, I let the opinions of my high school and early college peers influence my decisions.  And, at times, they steered me away from ideas and goals I strongly believed in.  I realize now, ten years later, that this was a foolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these people whose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life.  Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way.  What they think and say about you isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.
  10. Always be honest with yourself and others. – Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless.  Period.
  11. Talk to lots of people in college and early on in your career. – Bosses.  Colleagues.  Professors.  Classmates.  Social club members.  Other students outside of your major or social circle. Teaching assistants.  Career advisors.  College deans.  Friends of friends.  Everyone!  Why?  Professional networking.  I have worked for three employers since I graduated from college (I left my first two employers by choice on good terms), but I only interviewed with the first employer.  The other two employers offered me a job before I even had a formal interview, based strictly on the recommendation of a hiring manager (someone I had networked with over the years).  When employers look to fill a position, the first thing they do is ask the people they know and trust if they know someone who would do well in the position.  If you start building your professional network early, you’ll be set.  Over time, you’ll continue talking to new people you meet through your current network and your network’s reach and the associated opportunities will continue to snowball for the duration of your career.
  12. Sit alone in silence for at least ten minutes every day. – Use this time to think, plan, reflect, and dream.  Creative and productive thinking flourish in solitude and silence.  With quiet, you can hear your thoughts, you can reach deep within yourself, and you can focus on mapping out the next logical, productive step in your life.
  13. Ask lots of questions. – The greatest ‘adventure’ is the ability to inquire, to ask questions.  Sometimes in the process of inquiry, the search is more significant than the answers.  Answers come from other people, from the universe of knowledge and history, and from the intuition and deep wisdom inside yourself.  These answers will never surface if you never ask the right questions.  Thus, the simple act of asking the right questions is the answer.
  14. Exploit the resources you do have access to. – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness.  How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy?  The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have.  Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.
  15. Live below your means. – Live a comfortable life, not a wasteful one.  Do not spend to impress others.  Do not live life trying to fool yourself into thinking wealth is measured in material objects.  Manage your money wisely so your money does not manage you.  Always live well below your means.
  16. Be respectful of others and make them feel good. – In life and business, it’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.  So respect your elders, minors, and everyone in between.  There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected.  Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.  Supporting, guiding, and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards.  In order to get, you have to give.
  17. Excel at what you do. – There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right.  Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies.  Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.
  18. Be who you were born to be. – You must follow your heart, and be who you were born to be.  Some of us were born to be musicians – to communicate intricate thoughts and rousing feelings with the strings of a guitar.  Some of us were born to be poets – to touch people’s hearts with exquisite prose.  Some of us were born to be entrepreneurs – to create growth and opportunity where others saw rubbish.  And still, some of us were born to be or do whatever it is, specifically, that moves you.  Regardless of what you decide to do in your lifetime, you better feel it in every fiber of your being.  You better be born to do it!  Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires.

But above all, laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change.  Life is short, yet amazing.  Enjoy the ride.”

Be a blessing and tell someone before they turn 18. ♥

How to Find Happiness

Have you ever felt like you are never good enough?  I feel that almost every single day. 😦

Whenever I browse through my feed, I keep on seeing a cover girl for a magazine, a celebrity showing off her #OOTD or her #Shoefie. And I can’t help but compare my life to theirs.

Sometimes I think social media isn’t really for easy communication but a valid medium to show off. I, too, try to post only good things. However, my boring life will never compare to Kylie and Kendall Jenner’s. Like ever. And I know that. I accept that. (Yeah. Okay. Maybe I haven’t accepted it.) It’s just that, I really get so sad that it won’t.

Like, “Why can’t I have a life like that? Buy all the things I want? Be pretty almost all the time?”

I guess this is the reason we can’t be happy. We keep on comparing ourselves to others. And we have got to stop. I know it might be hard, but acknowledging that the problem exists is a good start.

You are the perfect you. Why try to blend in when you are destined to shine?

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How about you? How are dealing/did you deal with the obsessive self-comparison? Please comment it below. It’ll be a great help to me and to others. Happiness starts within ourselves. ♥