As I mentioned in my previous post, I wanted to talk about getting the girl the right way. Again, I am not an expert on this but I am a woman so please take all of this with a grain of salt.
One of the things that guys really hate is being sent to the friend zone. What exactly does a girl think of the friendzone? In my case, this zone is only there because women are afraid to flat out reject a guy. So instead of saying no, she says maybe.
What do I mean?
When a guy is interested with a girl, he befriends her. He doesn’t consider if the girl likes him back. He immediately thinks that if he shows her good things, treat her well, and buys her stuff, she’ll see that he’s the man for her. However, girls don’t like to assume. So what happens is, the woman thinks that this is just how the guy normally treat women. That he is just a really great friend. So in this case, the best way to deal is to lay your intentions. Tell her that you like her and you’re doing this because you are hoping she’ll see you as more than a friend.
I know that “some” girls actually take advantage of men who treat them well, but this only happens when the guy doesn’t try to check first if the girl is into them. If a girl is busy dating more than one man, and you’re not okay with that, let go. You deserve someone who will only want to be with you. Someone who will be content with you. And women also deserve this, so unless you are sure that you want to date ONLY HER, don’t “court” her. I think it’s time people stop playing mind games and just dive into being in a relationship.
The only reason men have a hard time understanding women’s motive, is because they don’t take the time to observe. [Okay. Observe, not stalk. No creepiness please.] And guys, please don’t be afraid of rejection. If she says no, just know that you’ve dodged a bullet. You don’t want to be with a girl who doesn’t want you. And to lower the damage of being rejected, I think you must make it clear to a woman that you like her before doing all the nice things I mentioned above.
Have you heard of “courtship”? This is when you lay your intentions, and tell a woman that you want to be in a relationship with her. IMO, the only way not to be on the friendzone is to ask her first for permission if she’s down to date you. At least, if she rejects you, and calls you a “friend”, you haven’t invested much.
Dating and relationships are complicated, so everything might be different for you. But don’t lose hope. If you’re a good person, I’m sure you’ll find the perfect person for you, who will make you feel loved, the way you deserve to be loved.
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